i think i found the problem. i was running a belkin wireless router to a d-link repeater. i have three computers running this wireless signal, not necessarily at the same time. the computers see both the router and the repeater (but they barely see the router). two are laptops, an hp pavilion, and the mini 9, and use windows to run the wireless. the other is a desktop using a netgear wireless card and the netgear software does the wireless selection. the other two computers never had a problem
the dlink was erratic, so i changed to a long hardwire ethernet cable from the belkin router, turned off the wireless, and put a belkin wireless router at my end. runs great now.
i don't understand how the wireless signal, no matter how erratic, could cause the BSOD. i would expect only a poor internet connection.
i guess its just another case of FM.